Very new to all of this; and dont know if this is the right place to post; but how do you cope with a family member who isnt helping? I really wanted to keep the subject of cancer very quiet. I mean very quiet. Originally I wasnt going to tell anyone, as its early days. Thats how I cope with things. But then when they said I would have to have surgery immediately, I didnt think I would get away with it. So I told only four people. Two of which were family members, but I told them it must be kept quiet. Most of my family dont know I have cancer. My mother is in her 90s and there is no reason to let her know as she would only worry greatly. One of the people I told however, is telling everyone (almost) I have counted over 12 so far that I know she has told; so its likely to be way more than that. This is really getting me down. I am a private person anyway, and until I know whats going on, I dont see why lots of others should be told anything. How do I deal with this family member, who isnt prepared to listen and thinks their need to tell people is greater than my need to keep matters private. Any agony aunts out there?
