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Found out dad has cancer on liver and spleen

Sally1985
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Hello

I found out my dad has cancer on his liver and his spleen. I'm very upset and scared we don't yet know how far along it is but we should get more answers next week and now am worries that we have just been hit by the cancer diagnosis and now think is it going to be more bad news when we find out how bad it really is. I am very upset and I just don't know what to do. I have had friends who have had family die of cancer but never had it in the family up till now. Is it selfish of me to worry if I will get cancer in the future. How can I lower the risks? I don't know how I'll react if it's bad news from his next scan. He has been in pain for months and I just want him to have higher medication so he's out of pain. Sorry I'm writing an essay here. I just think I need answers how long does he have left to live what can I do if anything? I know no one wants to loose anyone but I have just taken this very hard and it's my first experience and it's my dad I just don't know what I should be feeling or doing the only thing I am doing is googling how long he will live for and crying a lot.

Again sorry for the essay

Many thanks 

  • Welcome to Cancer Chat Sally although I'm sorry to hear about your dad's diagnosis and for the reason it brings you here.

    Our minds have a tendency of thinking the worst, especially when waiting for results, but if you can try not to jump to any conclusions until you find out more next week. It's understandable you want to know how much time you may have left with your dad but you won't know until next week. In the meantime maybe you could write down all the questions that are playing on your mind and discuss them at your dad's appointment next week? 

    Many members here have been where you are now and hopefully some of them will be along soon to offer their support and share their advice and experiences with you.

    Post as much as you need to Sally and let us know how it goes next week. We'll be thinking of you.

    Kind Regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

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