It can be really difficult sometimes to feel positive especially when things happen so quickly, like in your situation.

I was diagnosed with breast cancer and operated on all within ten days. I cried for most if not all of that time. That was last August. I am still undergoing treatment, which will end at the end of this month and I still cry every now and then, when things get on top of me. But for the most part I am positive and I keep myself occupied, walking, meeting with friends and spending quality time with my husband and family.

This is a great forum for support and chatting to other people in similar situations as yourself. They will share with you and help you along the way.

Dont ever feel that you are on your own. Try to focus on other things and keep yourself busy, which will help you.

I know it is easy to say and a lot harder to put into practice, but you can do it. 

Sending you a big hug

Doreen x

Hi Netski,

You're not feeling positive because you are a normal human being who has a lot of cr@p going on in your life! A cancer diagnosis (of any type) is enough to turn your World-view upside down, lifelong assumptions are undermined and the sense of immortality we have as children and young adults vanishes.

It will take time for you to adjust to your new reality. Survivor guilt is real, as is an enduring fear that cancer will return or worsen. Some people fall into despair, others feel reborn. Most of us sit somewhere between these extremes and just plod on making the best of a bad situation.

Best wishes

Dave

Hi Doreen, Thank you for your kind words, I feel as though ive cried a million tears, every day at some point i have a melt down, i'm trying to restrict it to when im in the shower so that i dont hurt my family's feeling they are all trying so hard to cheer me up, but at least I know that others are feeling the same way and im not alone, I have a very loving and supportive family but never realised just how lonely cancer can make you feel,

Once again thank you and the big hug was just what i needed

Annette x .

Your very welcome Annette ,

cancer is a very personal thing. It effects us all in different ways. But your right it can feel very, very lonely too.

Family, friends and colleagues are brilliant at cheering us up and supporting us. But no-one can help what goes on in our minds, especially in the early hours of the morning, when the rest of the household is fast asleep.

I too still break down at times, it's very difficult to be positive all the time. But knowing I can chat on this forum helps a lot.

Take care

Doreen x

Hi Annette,

What a strange coincidence, you and your Dad having exactly the same combination. My Mum had Bowel and Breast cancers, having lost someone close to cancer is a mixed blessing. On the one hand, you know what processes you will be going through, but on the other you know how bad it can get if things go wrong.

Hopefully before long you'll be all cried out and through your initial stage of grieving and ready to face the next steps.

Best wishes

Dave