Unfair, how to help

Hi people. 

Just 2 years ago my wife lost her mam to pancreatic c,  and today, she has been dealt the blow of her dad being diagnosed as terminal c too. None of us are over the loss of her mam, docs said 6-9 months, but she never made 3 months. Then today, again the same 6-9m prognosis again. She held so much in from before, and this latest bad news is terrible. I am worried for my wife. Also my 7 year old daughter isn't over loosing her Nanna (wife's mam),  and often wakes up crying, asking for her Nanna. Personally, I need help to keep both my wife and daughter from breaking down, but not a clue where to turn. I am their rock, but I don't wanna let them down. Help us please. 

Thanks in advance. 

Stu

  • Hi Stuff, this sounds devestating for you im so sorry to hear, your family must be going through the hardest time, I dont know if it sounds like a stupid idea but one thing that may not help now but in the future is make videos with them together and record his voice, take photo'shoot of your daughter with him and make a scrap book so that in the future it will help to comfort them slightly, go on day trips or have a little thing at home if he isnt up to going out, myim passed away 2 weeks ago and we only got the results on 7th Feb that she had cancer and had 4-6 weeks to live and she passed away 3 days later on the 10th. I recorded a video from my mum to my dad to help him and it has helped him to cope a little bit better, her strength has made him strong and he has starting fundraising to keep himself busy during this hard time. Maybe even record a message from her dad to her and keep it until after so that she can hear living words from him. It's a hard thing to do but u will see how much comfort it brings after. Make the most of everyday with him and make memories while you still can.

    Zoe

  • Thank you. That sounds like a good Idea. If dad is upto it we should do the vids. 

    Thank you.