Hi wynde

I hope you are well and looking after yourself, I also am new here and like yourself am caring for a loved one, my Nan was diagnosed in September and it's been a round of hospital visits ever since, the docs are talking radiotherapy etc after her op but I am worried due to her age and I don't know if it's the right thing I suppose it depends on what the expectancy will be either way - I am scared to ask. 

Like yourself I was not prepared for the emotional hurt/pain/anger I don't have advise to offer other than look after yourself so you can look after dad, be kind to yourself. 

If its any consolation and I know it wont be, but I'm in exactly the same position. 
We had kinda figured that Dad had stomach cancer, but on Wednesday we were told its not only in his stomach but his pancreas and liver too, I'm also suspect of his prostate. He can't have an op or chemo as the tumor is too far gone, and has he's had internal bleeding they are going to give him radiotherapy to shrink it to try to stop the bleeding, but it wont cure it. They can't cure it. He only has months left. 

I'm feeling emotions I can't even describe. He is my world, and I have no idea what I'm going to do without him. He and my Mum are divorced and I'm an only child so its even harder to have no one who is as close to him as I am. :(