Hello Eeyore74, 

I'm so sorry to hear about the news that your partner has been given. I'm sure that this is a very difficult time for you both and it's not uncommon for people to not want to talk about their illness with their loved ones. It sounds as if he wants to protect you all as much as he is able to from what is ahead of you all. 

Is there a relative or friend that you can talk to for support during this time? It may be that there is a counselling service that you can access at through your partner's medical team. Whilst he may not feel able to talk to you or his children for fear of upsetting you, he may feel more comfortable discussing things with his specialist nurse. 

We do have some information on our website about Coping emtionally which also includes a section on Talking about cancer. 

In the meantime please feel free to come and post here anytime that you need a chat, or to offload or to vent things. 

Sending you our best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator

Hi Eeyore, 

I'm so sorry to hear that your boyfriend's cancer also spread to his lungs. I can't begin to imagine how tough this is for you and the children right now but I'm sure he will be taking a lot of strength and comfort knowing you are all going to look after each other and are by his bedside. I have included some information about what to expect in the last few days if you would like to know what may come next. Is it a bit of a tough read so do only have a look if you think you are ready. 

There are other members who have been where you are now and hopefully they will be along soon to offer their support and advice and to share their experiences with you as well.

Post as much as you need to Eeyore and remember that we will be here when you need us.

Kind Regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Thank you so much for your reply! It means a lot that there are people willing to talk who have been through this!

My sweet Bob died today! April 11, 2017!