It's back

My husband had Kidney cancer he had one kidney and adrenal gland removed last year. They told us they had got it all and no further treatment was needed except scans 6 monthly. Now we have been told his remaining adrenal gland is swollen and there is a 1cm cancer on his stomach muscle. He had to have a ct scan guided biopsy and we are awaiting the results. I feel as if we are not being told anything. The locum we saw who gave us the results of the scan was awful. We walked in and sat down. He said "well what do you know?" We said "nothing we are here for the scan results". He said "well the cancer is back..." well we were both so shocked we couldn't remember what else he said. There was no one else in the room and I just stood up and put my coat on, he said "oh I think your wife is going" I was so out of it with shock I just felt I had to get out. The not knowing is the worst thing. My stress is through the roof, my husband feels dreadful and is also angry. This locum was the complete opposite of the man we saw when the kidney cancer appeared. He was so nice, as was the nurse with him. They treated us with compassion.

  • I'm in the same boat 2 years ago I had breast cancer this time it's cervical last time the breast care team were fantastic this time round I feel abandoned but it will get better try and keep positive hard I know but you will get through this I think it's harder  for the people around me so I feel for you my husband is finding it hard because he feels helpless to help I just tell him we will get through this I hope everything goes well for you and your husband

  • Thank you it makes me feel better knowing someone understands. It's the helpless not knowing that is the worst as you will know. I hope all the best for you and thank you again.