Hi,

A very close family member who is dearly loved and needed has been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. She has known for 2 weeks and kept it from us all so that she didn't worry us. 

All I know is that she is T4, N2, M0. I am struggling to understand what that means? I know that stage 4 is advanced, and that it's something that will never be cured. She starts chemo next week. I just want to know if there's any hope that she may respond well to chemo and that the tumour may shrink, giving her some time left? Why would they give her chemo if this wasn't the case? I guess i'm clinging to any hope I can. 

It's very difficult to get any info from her, as she didn't want to know the ins and outs when she saw the Oncologist. She doesn't want to talk about it, but as one of her primary carers I want to know what to expect. 

Controversially, she has only decided to open up to me about one thing. Cannabis oil. She asked me could I look in to it which I have and will continue to do so. Before it goes any further I would want to know if it would interfere with chemo in a negative way. Do I need to see her Oncologist to ask this question, or could I ask at her pre chemo assessment? Problem is, she doesn't want anyone to go with her, but I feel I need to ask some questions as I will be the one taking care of her alot of the time.