I found out to day my Mum has Cancer

I've had the devastating news my darling mum has been diagnosed with lung cancer today, she has a large mass in one and a smaller one in the other and it's sadly passed to her lymph nodes, I feel totally numb, my mum and dad have known for about 2 weeks and kept it to themselves as they didn't want to spoil Christmas for my sister's and my family, we both have children but my sisters are young and won't understand, my children are 17 & 13 and have guessed that something is up, I don't want to tell them the whole truth as it will crush them, I just don't know what to do? If anyone has any advice or is going through or gone through a similar situation and has any advice please help me.

  • Hi Sam,

     

    I have just found out yesterday my mum has kidney cancer and lower lung cancer both on the left side. As I live at home with my parents they could'nt really keep it from me as she has been ill for months before yesterdays diagnosis. When she started to get ill she didn't want to tell my brother or sister as she didn't want to worry them and after yesterday she still was unsure about telling them, I told ehr that I felt it was unfair to keep it from them and that if it was me I would want to know. In the end my dad phoned them last night and told them. 

    Throughout her being ill she has very much downplayed her pain/health ect but I have found this more worrying as I would prefer her to be honest than cover up how she is really feeling as it has made me worry more. and me and my dad are constantly watching her for signs of pain and her general demeanour.

    I know it is not an answer to your question but I have found talking to people on here very helpful over the last day x