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Mum has cancer and she won't let me see her

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I have just been told by my sister that my mother has been diagnosed with stage 2b lung cancer and she doesn't want to see me as she feels that I will only upset her. She is adamant that I have never been able to be fully at her side and have only ever made her unhappy. Therefore in order to spend her remaining days in peace, she would rather cut off all contact. What can I do?

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    I am so sorry about your mum and about how she is reacting.

    I am not sure what to suggest but how about writing to her? take your time and write carefully, focusing on her, telling her you just want to be there for her in any way she needs you to be. Can you talk to your sister about why your mum feels like she does? I hope you can work it out together

    Helen

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    Thank you for your support and advice....I will do what you suggested and let you know how that goes...

    Thank you so much again 

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    Hello i am a mum with cancer and sometimes i cant handle the emotions of my children it is so hard to try and be strong for everyone and i cant handle conflict because i think my life maybe short i just want peace i would write your mum a letter blood is thicker than water she will need your sopport hope this helps sending my love to you all x

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