Hi there, I was in the similar situation like you.. I'm living in Northern Ireland for 3 years but i'm originally from Slovakia.. I know how you feel.. My mummy passed away 3 months ago from Pancreatic cancer.. She was diagnosed on April this year and she had a surgery on 15th of April.. Doctor said she has only one year left.. she passed away on 17th of July.. We were in contact almost everyday and also with my dad.. when we knew that our mum is sick I went to see and I arrived the day before her surgery.. I was with her for around 40 days so she can be ready to come to northern ireland and spend her last months here with our family.. it was extremely hard for everyone and of course it's still very hard.. it's only 3 months and I feel upset so bad.. do you know more about her diagnosis? does she feels ok? and what about metastasis? I hope everything goes well.. feel free to text me i'm here to help you how I can take care.. 

Lucia 

Hello! I'm in the same position. Just started uni again after finding out my mom has stage 4 cancer. Watching everybody around me carry on so normally is difficult, being that I'm finding no motivation to do anything... Being away from her is devastating and makes things all the worse... I know I need to carry on but it's so hard, I hope things get easier for you!

hi

my daughter was in the same position as you are now she'd been at uni for only 2 months when i found out i had cancer. its a hard time for yourself just starting uni then the added stress and upset finding out your mum has cancer can't be easy for you but i'm sure your parents will want you to carry on at uni and follow your dreams i personally looked forward to hearing all the stories my daughter had to tell :) she had good tutors too which helped her and they pointed her in the right direction for help at uni that was 3 years ago now and shes just got her degree i'm so happy and proud that she carried on with uni. it will be hard for you at times but try and stay positive and give your mum lots of cuddles when you see her take care :)

Sorry to hear about your mum's cancer diagnosis :( 

I'm in the same boat! April last year (18 months ago now) my dad was diagnosed with stage 4 incurable bowel cancer which has spread to his lungs and liver. At the time I was a week short of turning 26. I'm now 27. It's been incredibly hard. The feeling when it hits you is indescribable. You can't breathe, your heart aches, you feel sick and overwhelmingly terrified. Every morning waking up hoping it was just a nightmare bit it's not it's reality! 

I think I've dealt with it pretty good so far trying to keep strong and upbeat around my dad. However this doesn't mean I don't occasionally crumble into a heap and cry like a little lost girl. Keeping upbeat and positive around my dad has really helped him along his journey. I think if we all constantly moped and fussed around him things might be very different. The hardest part of this process is it being a long journey, the pain is there constantly, it gets somewhat a little bearable as time goes on where you cry less but it's always there. Mixed emotions is completely normal so don't ever feel bad if sometimes you do just want some normality or you do shut yourself off because it's all part of the journey. I've cried, screamed, I've laughed, smiled and felt numb. We've created memories by taking lots of pics and trying to make the most of things like birthdays, Xmas etc. This fighting instinct kicks in maybe not with everyone but for some people it certainly does, sometimes I feel like I'm the adult and he's the child and I look after him if he's ever unwell and try do to things for him. I don't live with my parents I have my own little family but I try to help them as much as possible. 

Here if anyone ever needs a chat. 

So sorry to hear about your mum, how is she getting on?

I'm feeling the exact same way at the moment, we both need to carry on and do our mum's proud!

Apologies for the late reply, there's been a lot going on. 2 weeks after I found out about my mum, we found out that my auntie (my mums younger sister) also has cancer. They have both started chemo and it's so hard to see them going through this.

Sorry to hear about your dad :( how is he getting on?

I'm experiencing the same thing at the moment, I'm trying to keep going and be as positive as I can be around my mum but then I also have my moments where it doesn't seem completely real. My mum is a very positive person which also helps. My auntie was also diagnosed 2 weeks after my mum so it's definitely been a tough few months!

We found out 2 weeks after that my auntie also has cancer so it's definitely been tough but uni have also been very supportive. I'm trying my best and will do my mum proud. Congratulations on your daughter's graduation! :)

I'm really sorry to hear that. That makes it all the worse. I can't wait for the Christmas break to be back home without feeling like I've missed everything at uni. I hope everyhring is looking up a bit, my mums just finished chemo and started radio... It feels never ending. 

i hope all goes well x