Coping when multiple family members are suffering

Hello,

My mum is a 15 year breast cancer survivor but last year she revealed that she has the BRAC1 gene and needs to have a double mastectomy and hysterectomy as a preventative. She is had her hysterectomy and is now awaiting the date of her next operation. Around the same time my grandmother who is also a breast cancer survivor had a fully hysterectomy. My grandmother then recently discovered that she has breast cancer. Just when we thought that she had the all clear to have her mastectomy, doctors dicovered a mass around her neck and shoulder area. Until we recieve the results from this, the operation has been delayed.

Being away from home is so difficult and I am really struggling to cope emotionally, the waiting part and not knowing is the worst. My problem is that I am a worrier and I tend to overthink. Although, it does help so much that my family are very positive and strong women. I know that all of these situations will bring and have brought my family closer together. 

I find it hard to talk to my friends about it because they have not experienced this type of situation. I find myself feeling distant and almost numb to everything around me. At times, I feel lost and alone in how I am feeling.

I was wondering if anyone has any advice for ways of dealing with this kind of situation?

Thank you

  • Welcome to the forum E_Pennington_ although I'm sorry for the reason it brings you here.

    It sounds like you and your family have had a lot to contend with lately which can be very difficult when you're away from home but I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. Many of our members have been in similar situations with cancer affecting many of their family members and friends so will completely understand how you are feeling and what you are going through right now and I'm sure they will post soon to offer you their support and advice.

    I know you are finding it difficult to talk about this with your friends at the moment but you can come and chat here anytime you like and remember, there will always be someone here to listen and comfort you when times are tough.

    Do come back and let us know how your mum and grandmother get on.

    All the best, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator