i am 24 years old. and i am from Gateshead, in the North East. And i never thought i would be writing this, but, my 69-year-old mam has been diagnosed with breast cancer. I joined this because i didn't want to bottle my emotions up on the quiet :(
I'm very sorry to hear this. I lost my mom recently to B-Cell lymphoma and she was 71 so I can understand your feelings.
Not sure anything I can say will help but never bottle up your emotions, that's not good for your well being, it's "ok" to let them out.
Be there for her as much as you can be and enjoy every moment with her that you can. Tell her you love her often. Listen to her.
The good news is that treatments these days are far better than they ever have been, so there is always hope and I wish nothing but the best for you and your mom.
Thank you for your kind words Antoni. And I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. I lost my grandmother to cancer in 2009, when I was 17. Mum already asked for my help for when she has had her operation. She may need help getting dressed, she needs help with her beauty regime, and also cooking and other household chores, which my younger brother may be helping me with, despite his own health problems. I have Autism, which means I struggle with my emotions. I need to try and be strong for the sake of my mother.
Hi I am new to this site so bear with me. I too am from the north east but more nearer Durham area. I was diagnosed in 2013.with breast cancer , had a mastectomy then chemo then herceptin.that was nearly 4 years ago. The best advice I could give you is to be open to your mam about how YOU feel.,don't "Pusey foot "" about things . Talk to her mam and daudhter confide in her and it will help both of you to try and get through this awful illness!!!! Good luck and hang in there
Cancer is a word not a sentence as someone cleverer than me once said. I was diagnosed with grade three breast cancer in 2006. Had the lot, lumpectomy radiotherapy, chemotherapy, tamoxifen for five years. I have survived. Ten years on, I am currently clear. I am now 62. Hopefully your mum will be the same. Treatments have improved since I was treated. My only advice is to be guided by the medics, I nearly didn't go for the chemo but as it happened a friend of mine who had chosen that route five years earlier came in on the same day and her cancer had returned. I often think of her and thank god I was given the chance to change my mind on chemo. All the very best to you and your mum. X
