Hiya, so my friend (who I just started a sexual relationship with, the first person I've been close to since having my son) has started pushing me away after being diagnosed with cancer...

All I know is it's on his ribs and he wants to refuse treatment due to him driving drift cars as a hobby and believes under treatment he won't be allowed to continue that (I'm not sure how true that is) and his cars are basically his life...

I started having proper feelings for him a while ago but now he hardly speaks to me... We were so close for ages and all he wanted to do was see me even if all we did was watch TV and look after my little boy (who absolutely loves him BTW) 

But now I'm lucky if I get a word a week... I just don't know how to deal with it or whether we'll ever be like we were... I've cried so much just knowing he has cancer but even more now he's not even talking to me.

I felt horrible about a week ago when he asked me to come see him, he told me to go see him and I asked why he couldn't come pick me up and he said he felt too rough but he said that he wanted to go for a walk with me so I asked if that would be too much for him and then he stopped responding and then that night he was out drifting and I don't know whether he's lying to me about how he feels to avoid me (I don't drive and getting a babysitter is hard and also lack of money for transport, and he knows all this) or if he just felt better so he went out.

It's so hard to deal with and I just want him to know my feelings towards him haven't changed and I still want us to be close, but I don't wanna put any pressure on him... 

I just need to vent my feelings tbh...

So far I've just been sending him a message every few days saying something like "I hope you're doing okay" just to instill the idea that I'm still here...

Should I be doing more? Or less? Anything to definitely avoid? 

I hate worrying about him so much and not being able to help ):