Husband diagnosed with melanoma

My husband was diagnosed with melanoma on Monday. He had it removed on Wednesday and taking a biopsy to see how deep it has gone. I'm petrified it is too late as it was raised and looked so nasty by the time we saw it. It was on his back and emerged from an already funny looking mole so initial changes we put down to always having that funny mole. Anyway, whilst he is being so incredibly brave I am falling to pieces already (not in front of him). We are extremely close though so we can talk about this well. im so scared for him. His brother only passed away 3 years age born brain cancer and now this, he's 38. Did anyone have raised melanoma and survive? 

  • Hello Pepper1, 

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I was sorry to hread about your husband's recent diagnosis. Do you know how long you'll have to wait for the biopsy results? I'm sure that many of our members here will be able to empathise with the difficult period of uncertainty that comes whilst waiting for test results. 

    If you think it might help we do have a team of nurses here at Cancer Research UK that you can call to chat to. They are available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040 (free to call from a UK landline). 

    There is also an organisation called Melanoma UK and I've linked the details for you here

    Please do pop back and let us know how things are. You're welcome to post any time. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator

  • hi.I was diagnosed with melanoma last august after having a lump excised from my forearm.it was stage 2B and subsequently i had to have a wide excision and sentinel lymph node biopsy.this was all carried out at the royal london hospital by an amazing surgeon.the object of this was to see if any rogue cells had got into the lymph nodes.thank god that hadnt happened.i am now under the care of my local hospital and have 3monthly checks,i have just had one today.the consultant thoroughly checks my skin and for any swelling in the lymph nodes.the worst part of all of this was the trauma of waiting for results.it seems to take forever(at least 4 weeks each time)what i can say is that it is very reassuring having regular check ups and also having a support nurse who i can phone at any time if i am concerned about anything.all i can say is try and keep positive althouigh i know that is not easy and when you see your consultant ask lots of questions.finally,two other people who i got to know at the time got the all clear so it isnt the death sentence that we make ourselves belkieve it is.good luck with the results.