Hello ELC,

I just wanted to welcome you to Cancer Chat. First of all, congratulations on your pregnancy - and wow twins that will be not just one but two bundles of joy and not long to go now before you see your babies. But what a difficult time it must be for you at the moment. I am so glad your husband is being very supportive as you probably need him by your side at the moment to help you cope with the situation. It is clear from what you describe that you are doing everything you can for you mum and as your pregnancy progresses and you live far away, it might not be physically possible for you to be as much with her as you would like to. I am sure your mum understands that and that she knows you are there for her, that you talk via Skype and that you love her very much.

You have come to the right place though to talk to others who are in a similar position with a terminally ill parent or relative and they will no doubt have some advice or words of comfort for you. It can help to talk to someone facing similar challenges at the moment so that you don't feel so alone with this. 

Do keep in touch and let us know how things go for you. We do love baby news on Cancer Chat so drop us a line - if you get a chance - when the twins are here :)

Warmest wishes for you and your mum,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Oh huni I don't have any idea how you are feeling when you are at a time where you should be enjoying being a pregnant mum of twins and also sad and in despair about your poor mum.

Life can be so cruel.

I went back to work after maternity leave 2 days before my mum was taken into hospital with a suspected stroke.

Then they found the mass in her brain. On 1st Feb this year they operated to both remove as much of the mass ad possible and to take a biopsy to see what it was.

A week later we found out it was a brain tumour. A very aggressive form... grade 4 glioblastoma multiforme. Was given 3 months without treatment. Mum had treatment both radiotherapy and oral chemotherapy. But it won't and didn't cure her. So we are trying to live life as fun as possible. Trips out with us all and nice treats.

It's hard as she has tired days so can't always plan things. But luckily she doesn't seem in any pain at the moment. It's just the when and how. Mum won't ask anything andsnd won't let us ask the drs anything.

If you need to talk message me huni. X

P.s.   I am one of 4 daughters and 2 of my sisters have twins so any help or advice about twins I can offer too... might help you take your mind off things. X