My partner has now been diagnosed with primary lung cancer which spread to the eye (eye symptoms were the first thing but she was treated for 'scleritis' for several months until - after a two month delay between a chest X-ray being done and anyone actually looking at the results - they identified a 'mass' on her lung).  We saw the Oncology team yesterday and they showed us the PET-CT scan which shows the cancer has also spread to her neck, hip, womb and liver.  The news was devastating as I'm sure anyone here can imagine.  They will start radiotherapy quite soon for the neck and hip and then there will be chemotherapy

I feel very afraid and alone - although there are plenty of family members around (my partner's sisters, our daughter and my step-daughter), but I feel I am having to be strong for them when I just want to scream and cry with anger at the delayed diagnosis and my utter grief at the thought of losing the person I've loved for over 30 years.

Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I cope with these feelings while trying to help and support my partner to come to terms with the fact she probably has very little time left?