No problem. Be strong, it's hard, I'm going through the same as you. Every day is a battle but she's the motivation I need. How can she be strong if I'm not. Takes strength and selflessness but it's possible, I promise. I hope you can find the strength xxx

Hi Caleedonia, 

I am so sorry to hear about your girlfriend. I am 26 and my dad was just diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer, so I can definitely relate to some of the things you are feeling. I just wanted to offer my support and tell you that you aren't alone in feeling this way. It's okay to cry, it's okay to be angry. Sometimes i still get upset, but I usually go off into a room somewhere, have a cry and then come back. It's a struggle to get through the days right now, but if you need anyone to talk to, we're always here! 

Hello. How did you cope?

Hi there, 

I forgot all about this. What a reminder it was to see my state of mind at that time. Surprised I was able to be so positive. 
 

im not going to lie to you, I did not cope very well and I'm not proud of how I acted but I am in a good place now so all turned out as well as can be in the end. Less than a month after the last reply here she passed away, one week before our wedding so we never got a chance to marry. It was a tragedy, I was completely broken for a long time, I thought I would never feel better. I spent most of my free time drinking and taking illicit drugs, I guess slowly trying to kill myself. This all changed when I made the decision to travel, I thought I'd give myself a second chance and see where it goes, had to be better than wallowing in self pity and turning into an alcoholic / drug dependent. 
I set off on a trip around a few areas of the world I had never been, where I met a very understanding companion with a lot of paitience who helped me to heal and showed me how to love again, it was a slow process and everyday I get a hurt a bit less. Happy to say we are now married and happy.

I still think about my dearly departed fiancée every day and I always will, I am also still in close contact with her family and so is my wife which is a very nice turn of events. Glad they are still part of my life , but I'm also glad I found a second chance at happiness as things could have gone a completely different way.

if you're going through the same, my advice would be to do whatever makes you feel ok. Don't listen to anyone else, do what is right for you, if that means making some bad decisions at the time don't be so hard on yourself you're only human. I managed to turn myself around by making a positive decision to do something about it, and for me that was removing myself from my situation here to get a fresh perspective, for you it could be something different. But I wish you well regardless and I hope one day you can find happiness again if you're going through the same thing 

Hello,

I'm sorry to hear your news. 

I have recently been diagnosed with Cancer myself and my partner is almost taking it too well. 
I feel he avoids talking about it and doesn't talk about how he is feeling which makes me feel awkward about the whole situation and talking about it in front of him. It's almost like we are back to normal however I'm not in my own head. 
I'm sure she knows your hurting, but have you spoke about the diagnosis much?
I think my partner may be trying to stay strong like yourself, It's something you are going through together so sharing your feelings as you normally would seems like the most important thing to do. As I wish my partner would stop pretending it isn't happening. 
 

I guess what I'm trying to say is talk about it. Let her know how your feeling.
Don't fear for the future. Enjoy the life you have with her at present.

I wish you all the best. Take Care and Stay strong.