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Dcis breast precancer

lana22
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I'm confused and feeling exhausted. Do not know what to do. I have two children age 2 and 4 and just found out I have DCIS which is 7cm (70mm) size in right Breast and the other Breast there may be DCIS but the doctor is still not sure the size and if both Breast became invasive. Because of the size of the DCIS is quite big then it's likely it could be invasive. Apart from this my house has just been recently flooded. So I had to leave my house until it gets fixed. At the moment I am just under soo much stress. My mother helps out with looking after the kids but I feel guilty that I can't be able to look after them. I really want to be back to my old routine with my kids and back to the way I was. How long does this feeling stay for and how long will treatment takes. I'm having mastectomy and reconstruction and I just do not know how long will this take and to recover after reconstruction. I wish I can take a alittle break away just for 2 days near a sunny beach or something with the kids but also having finance problem. Can anyone who has been through mastectomy and reconstruction let me know please averagely how long does it take?. I just want to feel normal again and be back to myself and back to looking after my kids.  I miss them soo much and all this is soo hard. I don't know what to do I don't know if I am depressed but don't know where to go or ask for help. I feel the doctors and nurses are just concentrating on getting me better and removing it. I'm mentally drained. I don't know what to do. I want my kids back but my mother is saying I am not in the right state at the moment. I just feel soo guilty and feel horrible cause feel I have placed a big burden on my mum. I could see she may be going through stress also and I worry too much over how she is feeling. I worry how the kids are feeling. I love them soo much and I know at this moment it's better they are with my mother. But I also wish I can look after them all day like I used to do. I just wish all this can just go past quickly and I recover quickly. :-(

  • Welcome to the forum Lana although I'm sorry for the reason it has brought you here.

    I'm also sorry that on top of your diagnosis you've got a lot on your plate at the moment but it's great that your mum is able to help. It's understandable why you may be feeling guilty but as a mother yourself you know that you would do anything for your children, which is what your mum is doing for you. Have you spoken to any of your close friends about your situation? If so, maybe they could help you and your mum look after the children from time to time? I'm sure they would want to do anything they can to support you and help you through this difficult time. 

    Many of our DCIS members will know how you're feeling right now having been in the same situation themselves. [@Mony]‍ might be able to help answer your query about the mastectomy and reconstruction and you can talk to other members diagnosed with DCIS here. If you have any other queries about your surgery you can also speak to our specialist cancer nurses by calling 0808 800 4040. This number is free to call if you are based in the UK and they are available Monday - Friday between 9a.m-5p.m.

    I hope this helps.

    Wishing you all the best, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

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