Hi All,
I used this site 6 years ago when my Dad sadly passed away with brain cancer and I found it very helpful.
My brother in law is 46 and has been ill for over 12 months starting with gastric problems and not being able to keep food inside him. After every test know to man and various opinions from so called specialists he was told that they thought it was his gall bladder and he was due to have it removed in the next month.He has also lost over 3 stones and is very frail. Last week he went for a blood test and went a yellow colour and his GP told him that he needed to be admitted to hospital straight away. (Thurs evening.) After sitting there for ever with my poor sister they finally got to have a CT scan on Sunday morning and he was told that he had a mass on his pancreas. He has been told that it could be cancer but it may also be benign but they won't know until a meeting had been held with specialists to see the best course of action and they will also discuss his scans. My sister has never really got over the loss of my Mum & Dad. (Mum died in between Dad being diagnosed with brain tumors and him passing away. 3 months between them). She is totally devastated with the news and my brother in law is also in shock and very emotional. They have 2 kids 14 & 18 and want to keep it from them until they know exactly what the situation is. I need to be there to support my younger sister as she only has me and my brother and our families. My brother in laws Dad had stomach cancer and passed away 2 years ago and his brother and sister and Mum don't really deal with crisis well ! Any advice on how to support them would be appreciated. Mike