Thank you x

Hi Roseanna, my mum has been diagnosed recently with terminal bladder cancer and was told to enjoy her life. It's been 3 weeks of turmoil. I have been distraught, sad, angry, numb and can't stand the thought of not having my mum around. However we celebrated her birthday last week in style, Mother's Day was special too. My advise is be strong in front of your mum and paint the biggest smile. Thinking of you. Sharon 

I took my mum out for lunch on Mothers Day and she loved it. It's my 21st Birthday next month so I think we'll go out for a meal and enjoy the day. I haven't cried in front of my parents since my mum was diagnosed. Only mum has cried in front of me. I'll try to keep smiling :) . Thank you x

Hi there 

I know exactly how you are feeling I too am just now going through this my mum was diagnosed two weeks ago lung that has spread to multiple sites I am only just 29 and have no children or married etc and I can't bare to think of my mum not being here when that happens I can even imagine lie without mum it's devastating like a nightmare I can't wake up from she is my best friennd and no one gets me like she does I am feeling your pain :( 

Hello

I just find it all scary right now. People have been asking me how I'm coping and I always say 'I don't know' because it's true. But usually family members (like my Gran or my aunt etc) will ask my dad instead of directly asking me. But to be honest I don't actually know how I'm feeling. I think it's all a huge wave of different emotions just now.

Thinking of you

Rosie x

Hi Roseanna 

I'm so sorry to hear about your mum! Cancer is cruel and it affects all the good families!

I completely understand how you feel! I'm 22, lost my dad a year and half ago to AML (Acute myeloid leukaemia, cancer) ...for the whole time from when he was diagnosed until the day before he passed I was his carer! I took on a great deal of responsibility which involved caring for him Monday-Friday at Bristol and then come home weekends to work my shifts to get money for getting by! Unfortunately I didn't make it to him for when he passed away! And then January this year my mum has been diagnosed with incurable lung cancer which has now spread to some bones. She's in a lot of pain! So I have to go through the whole process again...the thought of losing a parent to cancer is one of the hardest things a young adult has to go through, and really nobody, especially at our age should have to go through it!  A lot of people will always say stay positive, especially those who haven't experienced a loved one with cancer, well a parent with cancer. You will find you will get frustrated a lot, but it's completely normal! And very much like you I couldn't cry! Within time you will cry but the shock and numbness has to wear off first

All my love 

Charlotte X 

Hi Charlotte just read your post this is so sad I'm so very sorry to hear this I cannot imagine losing both let alone one at the moment you are right it does seem to happen to the good ones I've been asking why a lot . My mum has the same and to hear the news tore through my heart and I cried at first a lot but now I'm in shock I think as I cannot cry people keep saying be positive too and you do try I see my dad going to pieces I'm scared of losing him too he has gone into overdrive working on everything he can to keep busy but he's in his 60s I need him to slow down and take care of himself too now it's horrible bless you I am thinking of you . Stacey X 

Hiya Stacey! Thank you for your response to my comment!

Many people (including myself) find that being in groups is pretty unbearable! It's all overwhelming when the day is done! Many people find themselves getting frustrated for no reason, constantly tired, there's always the what ifs and buts!  And exactly! Your in shock! Many people (again including myself) use a different mechanism to cope! It's the whole 'I must be strong for mum' therefore you block your own feelings to protect the person who has cancer! Some people cry when finding out the news and then don't cry much while the person is poorly. Usually because your trying to crack on and help as much as possible! But for some people, crying is a regular thing! It is ok to cry! It's never an easy thing to go through! Especially with parents! However some people like ourselves would rather wait until we are away from the person with cancer to let our feelings out! It does all build up! I mean I hadn't cried for ages! Probably since finding out the news! But Sunday I was so frustrated that it just all flowed out, and it's surprising how much better you feel after a good cry! I am always happy to support those and be ears for those who need the help! Big love to everyone right now!

Charlotte X 

Hey

Very true!!

My mum is 63

Rosie x