I know exactly how you feel. I found it very hard when I was first diagnosed to tell the people closest to me, never mind anyone else. My husband told the family and my children, I know I would ve just burst into tears! I even remember my husband crying telling my mum. Worst moment ever! I only told people who really needed to know like my managers at work, I wanted to come to terms with it myself and not be looked at in pity by workmates and friends. They just knew I was going for an operation, once I went on the sick for the operation and recovery I found it easier to talk to people. It will get easier for you too I know it's hard and everyone will say the same to you but be positive, there's a lot of different treatments. You re in a better position than I was cos your husband will understand exactly how you feel. You ll find your own way that is easiest for you x good luck and hope all goes well for you xxx

I know what you mean about not wanting people to be odd with you. When my mum and brother were ill everyone knew and I felt I had no place I could escape from cancer. Looks, questions, sympathy even. I've decided for now (for as long as possible) not to tell work people. Juggling that has already proved tricky. 

It did for me too especially cos they were my friends but you ll get there and they ll be really supportive when you do x just let yourself get your own feelings round it first x hope all goes well xxx

Hi Shona. It's hard when other members of your family and friends suffered cancer and passed away. I was diagnosed with breast cancer Her2 in 2013. This was about eighteen months following the death of my youngest sister and close childhood friend on the same from breast cancer. I had just started to feel that things were moving on last year. However my husband of 40 years suddenly took I'll a week before Christmas and passed away following a diagnosis of cancer which had spread throughout his body... Cancer is hard to deal with.