Bladder cancer stage 4

My mum got diagnosed with stage 4 bladder cancer last week. It has spread to other organs. The doctor said to just enjoy your life and go no timescale. I need a rough guide of timescale. She looks ok at the moment although has lost a lot of weight. My grieving has already commenced and I truly can't get my head around everything and feel a timescale would have helped.

  • Hi Bluenose72

    Welcome to Cancer Chat.

    I am sorry about your mum's bladder cancer diagnosis.

    I wonder whether the doctor didn't want to give you a timescale in case it proved to be inaccurate?

    If you would like advice from our nurses about this, please do call our helpline on freephone: 0808 800 4040 from Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm.

    There are others here who are in a similar position to you. I hope they come to say hello shortly.

    Please let us know how you and your mum are getting on.

    Best wishes

    Jane

  • Thank you. The Pallative nurse has been in touch this week but my mum said she doesn't need any pain relief at this stage. She is awaiting an oncologist appointment, not sure what this is for?