It's all overwhelming

Offline Leex over 9 years ago

First of all Hope this is in the right place.

Well I can honestly say this is 1 Web forum I don't want to be apart of or ever imagined I would be..

My mum has just been diagnosed with lung cancer they say she has none small cell lung cancer.

She had a chest infection and it showed up on a x-ray they said it has been caught early and she has the best possible chance, that was about 3 weeks ago.

Since then the news has been worst after bad. They then found the gland in her neck is swolen up. Still waiting for the results from that but doctor has said it will be cancer also.

They have now also found 2 lesions or what ever there called on her brain, so it's also spread to her brain.

She is starting chemo on Monday (4 days time)

Then she will be having radiotherapy.

The nurse has said it's incurable. Does that mean it's terminal cancer... and the chemo will only give her extra months rather then years.

I know she won't be with us for long. And as hard as that is, its just the outcome I have to face

It's my younger sister I'm most afraid about. It's breaking my heart so much knowing how it's going to affect her.

My mum and dad are high-school sweethearts and have been married over 40 years it's going to and is destroying my dad I just can't bear to see my whole world collapsing around me.

Offline GrahamM over 9 years ago

Hi Leex
Yes this is definately a club that you don't want to be a member of but welcome all the same.
Technically speaking Terminal means a condition that is giving you a short life expectancy, typically taken to be less than 6 months.
Someone who is incurable may have a longer life expectancy and could even pass away from an unrelated condition especially with older sufferers where the cancer has gone into remission - but is not going to be cured of the condition
In the case of your mother it sounds as if the difference may be academic but if she did not respond to the treatments or couldn't have them because she waas not well enough then she'd be "untreatable" and in her case that would probably make it terminal.
It is awful when someone you love so much gets a devastating diagnosis like this - often doubly so for them because not only do they have this condition but they see the pain and worry that it inflicts on those around them.
Make the most of the time you have with her - try to get a bit of fun into these last months as much as you can, try to take her mind off of it and do your best to show her how you can cope and how you'll be just fine without her.
Best of luck
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