Oh I'm so sorry for you, I know what your going through my dad was diagnosed with grade 4 lung cancer last month, the only symptom he has is a hoarse voice we thought it was laryngitis! , the only thing I will say is they normally don't catch lung cancer at stage 2 it's usually well advanced before they detect it like with my dad and my mum died of of it 16 years ago, hers was particularly aggressive though! The fact they have caught it at stage 2 gives him a much better chance and there was a story on here of a lady who beat stage 2 lung cancer twice! So keep positive he may well beat it. Sending you hugs though because it is an awfu time for everyone u just don't know what's going to happen xxx

Thank you both.

it helps to know I'm not the only one as I do feel "lonely" at the minute despite having a great family.

they said the hilar lymph nodes were slightly raised? 

How are your dads at the moment?

sending hugs back. We need them as this is horrendous! You always think your parents are invincible x

Hi, my dad passed away 3 days after diagnosis. He was stage 4 at diagnosis and had hidden that he was unwell till we noticed he had lost weight. It all happened so quickly, he was gone in under a month. It's been tough.

So sorry to hear about your dad, I know how you must be feeling , my dad was diagnosed with stage 3 inoperable lung cancer at the start of feb, it's just such an awful situation to find yourself in isn't it!! Try and think of the positives tho like it's been found at stage 2 and you mentioned surgery so he's in with a fighting chance. I know it's hard but you have to try and stay positive, like you, when we found out about my dad I just couldn't stop crying, I knew I had to pull myself together but just couldn't find the strength, it was only the other day that I did after dad saying he couldn't stay positive if us around him went to bits, that was it for me, going to stay positive from now on!! 

Has there been any mention of chemo or radiotherapy for your dad yet? It seems to have taken forever but we have just got there and dad starts the next part of his battle on Thursday with his 1st round of chemo! 

It's important for you to remember that your not on your own going through this, I felt just the same and that's why I started using this forum, there is always someone to talk to , or even just to get your thoughts down in writing and out of your head! I wish you, your dad and family all the very best in fighting this horrible, evil illness 

Yvonne xx 

Thanks everyone for your kind words and support.

my dad meets with a surgeon and an oncologist this Thursday to discuss his options in more depth. He is VERY reluctant to have surgery and struggles to talk about it.

i think he is finding it hard to accept that he has cancer and wants to just burry his head in the sand. My mum and I keep prodding him gently as time is of the essence!

he much prefers the sound of radiotherapy.

does anyone know if surgery is that much more successful?

he is worried about the recovery and risks involved as he is 68 xx

Hi I know your pain, my dad got diagnosed with lung cancer 5 years ago he underwent surgery and chemotherapy and managed to stay cancer free for 6 months then he got diagnosed with bone cancer prostate cancer and liver cancer, we lost him last October at the age of 69, he remained so positive and brave , stay positive for your dad and be brave ,  I miss my dad every day absolutely hate this awful disease xx

Hello, if the surgery is on offer, from what I've read, take it! There are people on here who have had surgery and the success rates are so much better. They might be able to remove it all and be talking about a cure rather than just keeping it at bay. Ask the consultant regarding the outlook for each treatment. It's a much better position to have an operable cancer that can be removed. Good luck! x

I am sorry to hear about your dad.

this really is a nightmare that so many of us seem to be faced with.

they are wanting to remove his right lower lobe and do adjuvant chemo (6 doses I think).

he is thinking that he might prefer radiotherapy, however I'm so confused! I thought he would jump at the chance to have it removed.

he says he is 68 and he may not recover well and/or get it again afterwards anyway!

i think he is just so scared and a little in denial xx

Thanks, the chemo might not be as bad as he thinks. He may not recover well and the chemo might not be good but on the other hand if he's fit now then he may well be fine with both aspects. If you look at statistics for Lung cancer they aren't very good at all. I'd Imagine he is very scared and it must be very frightening for him. I'm not sure how successful radio is with lung cancer. I've done research on my dads type of cancer and also read lots of lung cancer posts on here, those that have had surgery have been given another chance at life. Usually lung cancer is caught later when you can't be cured. Maybe do another post on here asking for feedback on successful lung ops and see what comes back. It's easy for me to say as I think that this was never an option for my dad. But I always think life is for living and I have lots of reasons to want to live my life and remain here for a long time. On the flip side of the coin most people want a good quality of life also and if you was terminal you may well opt for no treatment. Your dad is right it may well come back but there are more chances of that with radio than if it's removed from his body and it hadn't spread anywhere. I hope you dad makes the right decision for you all as you certainly can't force them. Fingers crossed for you all x