Hi HS

I'm afraid the outlook with lung cancer isn't great in general - but it is complicated and there are different types so it's really hard to say.

More info here

www.cancerresearchuk.org/.../statistics-and-outlook-for-lung-cancer

but there's a lot of variation in those numbers and there are people on here fighting it long after they should be gone.

What's this about not talking to her about it because you're meant to be strong?

Do you mean that if you talk to her about it you might break down and cry about it with her and you'd be embarassed about that?

I'm 51 I've two grown up kids, I have a really responsible job with 8 staff, I've jumped out of airplanes, I hold black belts in 2 martial arts and I cried like a baby when my wife died and I'm not ashamed of it in any way.

If you bottle all this up inside you'll be in the bed next to her in no time

Having said that she may not want to know how long she has not everybody does so it may not be something she wants to talk about.

in the end its not how many days she has left but the quality of what goes into them. Try not to obsess over how long and concentrate instead on spending time with her - these days are so precious and you won't get a chance to live them again.

Sit with her, talk to her about anything, just be there with her