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Hi Louise, I am so sorry to hear about your dad  :( My dad was diagnosed less than 3 months ago and I am still in shock every day. I find it so difficult to see him in pain and I feel helpless because I cannot help him. He started chemo and it's been so horrible. The side effects are worse than cancer itself. I can see how scared he is before each treatment and how much weaker he gets and it breaks my heart. He's lost so much weight and doesn't have an appetite. The doctors said the surgery might be possible but I just don't think he is strong enough to handle it. I honestly don't understand how it happened. 3 months ago my dad looked happy, healthy, full of life. He is only 58 and he is the best person I know and I love him more than anything. 

Hi Louise, I was so sad to read your story but was is a similar situation. My husband was diagnostic with pancreatic cancer and we had our hopes up they he was going to get the Whipple procedure but unfortunatly they discovered it had spread to his liver. He was just 51 and sadly passed away on the 31st of October after just 12 weeks leaving behind me and our 2 teenage sons. I found it really hard to deal with, especially because he was in a lot of pain all the time. He ended up with a syringe driver which put pain relief into his body. People say that this disease isn't painful but they are wrong. Keep at the doctors about his pain relief as he needs a quality of life. They managed to control my husbands pain relief better when he received palliative care. You will need your friends to support you through this. I felt I was living in a bubble all the time and it didn't feel real as it was over so quick. One thing I'd say is never give up hope, there are people that survive this disease for years despite the statistics. Thinking of you