Hi te21, at least you know you are loved and cherished if your family are sad. However my advice is for you to sit them down and explain that you have too much on your plate to expend energy on bouying them up. You need your energy for you at this time. You will wear yourself out if you don't be a little selfish. You have every right just now to behave as you wish, it's your battle. I wish you well. I had all this over 12 years ago. It looks massive going in, and much smaller on the way out, I truly know that.