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Hi my name is Lesley. My Mum Jean has liver cancer. We got the initial diagnosis 8 weeks ago after Mum had a Ct scan. Mum has been in and out if hosp 3 times during these 8 weeks to have treatment to flush out high levels of calcium from her blood, without a great deal of success. She was in hosp the last on the last occasion for just over a week. The high blood calcium is making her very drowsy and a little confused at times. We finally saw an oncologist last Tuesday and we were given the devastating news that the cancer has taken all but around 5% of her liver. With no viable treatment options as it is so advanced. The oncologist was very kind and spent almost an hour with us but in the end  the best advice she could give was to spend time with Mum and have Christmas early this year. I can't believe how fast this is all happening. 

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    Hi

    Have just noticed that you had not yet received a reply so thought I would just drop a line to welcome you to the forum, though sad to read the reason that brings you here.  Whilst I  have no experience of your Mum's cancer I do understand your feelings of devastation on hearing the news. My husband had a terminal diagnosis and it is so hard to get your head round(passed away Jan'15) .

     You may well have read other threads on this forum and seen the term 'coping day to day' and I found this was the only way to gain the strength I needed. Whist it is frightening and frustrating in equal measure that you cannot change what is happening, I do hope you are able to spend quality time with yoru Mum and that her care team can keep her as comfortable as possible.  Pop on the forum any time you need a bit of support or  feel like a rant and I hope others will pick up on your post now that my response should bump it up, so to speak.

    Sending a virtual hug. Jules54

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    Hi Jules54, 

    Thank you so much for your kind response . I'm really sorry for your loss. 

    Mum is pretty much at end stage now. My sister and I both being nurses are staying with Mum and Dad and we looking after Mum between us.  The community nurses are only a phone call away if we need them though . They're really lovely, all the necessary medication if you get my drift is here but hopefully we won't need that for a while yet. Yesterday all our family came for an early Christmas Day. I was more than a bit worried about it when Mum asked if we could have Christmas early, but as always Mum knows best and we all had a truly magical day with her Tree, Decorations, Turkey and all the trimmings. I'm so glad we listened to her request . Thank you for being there this site is a real help. Xxx

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    Hi

    Am so pleased that you could all enjoy the festivities early and know that in years ahead you will have wonderful memories to cherish.  It is great that you have support in place as and when necessary as I know that can give peace of mind too. Our GP and community nurses/palliative care were also a godsend and I was able to cope with their help as my husband wished to stay at home. 

    I appreciated the support of the forum too and just knowing you can pop questions/thoughts down somehow helps. Take care. Jules x

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