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8 months pregnant, When husband diagnosed with mouth cancer

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Hi

I'm not really a chatroom person, but my husband doesnt want anyone to know, but i need to say it or I'll explode!

He has just been Diagnosed with cancer in his mouth on the upper pallett, he is already under pressure as we are expecting in 4 weeks our first child, a little daughter to arrive. and now the news of the cancer has arrived, it looks like he has had it for about 18 months, he mentioned the lump to his dentist 18 months ago, who told him not to worry about it, then he mentioned it again about 12 month ago, same again, then mentioned it again about 6month ago, again the dentist said not to worry about it, then he had a dentist trip a few weeks ago and isissted to be reffered to a specialist to have a second opinion, the dentist said there was no point but did it anyway...... now he has been diagnosed with cancer.

I feel really lost and scared, and cannot stop crying, but i know i need to be strong for him and so i can cope with giving birth to our daughter who will soon be here, and i need to be here for him as he is the one about to go through all the treatments ect. how do you cope? how do you be there for someone going through this when your lost and scared yourself?

 

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    well it certainly is bad timing, because these should be your happiest years! Gosh I have a lump on my upper pallett and was always told it was bone growing in the wrong place, but I have now been told the same again by a proper head cancer consultant, (I was already seeing him for a different cancer) so I guess I should believe him.

    try to get him seen by a head and neck cancer specialist, they have the expertise to do the operation as they are also trained in dentistry. look up cancer busting foods on the internet e.g. beetroot, and go for that, to help the situation. I have drastically changed my diet, and was told by countless doctors, after my cancer operation, that I have amazingly good healing skin, which I put down to good food - although I have not stuck to zero sugar as I love chocolate.

    Take it week by week and have lots of happiness. hopefully it can be treated, and will go away. my friend's dad has cancer of the mouth and is doing fine, has done for years. Give yourself lots of treats too! good luck all 3 of you.x

     

     

     

    talking does help, so encourage him to go down that path. after all, that's why you are on this forum.

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    Sheep

    sorry to hear your news especially at a time when you are overjoyed at when end of the spectrum from the soon to be birth of your child and then at the other end with your husbands diagnosis.

    be assured you have come to the right place though

    this is a worrying time for you and devastation got, but there are many of us on here to help you and you husband through this.

    If you need to know anything then shout there are a bunch of great people on here that helped me through my cancer and in turn I am helping.

    it maybe something that you husband may take solace in but that's for him to decide

    we are always here so shout

    Vatch

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    Hi Sheep, wow that's really sad news at such an important time for you both. However, please be positive. There are lots of us on here who have been through oral cancer and are doing fine now - including myself! The treatment can be intense but it's a short time of discomfort and your husband will soon be fit and well again and enjoying his new family. My daughter had just turned two when I was diagnosed but I coped and you will too. 

    Keep us up to date with how your husband is doing and we can offer lots of tips and advice along the way.

    Best wishes,

    Nicola xx 

     

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    Hi Nicola,

    How are you?  Want to know.  I am on the same road now waiting for the appointment.  First one is on Monday with ENT doc. When I look at my mouth I just know.  I was going to GP and Dentist for 3 Months and  they didn't think that my throat or tongue anything to worry only now!  

    Want to know that you are fine after all these years. 

    Blessings 

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