Hi Charlee, welcome to the forum, but sorry about what is happening in your life. Your post grabbed my attention because about 16 years ago, I was in a similar situation. I was in a new relationship, (actually not even 5 months, maybe 3) and my then partner was diagnosed with lymphoma. He told me to run before I got involved any further. I told him I didn't feel the need to run, at least not then, but I reserved the right to do so later. He was in disbelief that I didn't hitail it and run right off the bat. I asked him if he was okay with my decision to end it if I felt I wasn't able to hang in there with him at some point. He agreed.  Long story short he died in my arms in hospital a year later.

Perhaps if you contact your partner and have a frank and open discussion with him about your intentions, you and he can come to some agreement as to how this can look for you. A word of caution though; if you're not prepared to do this, then don't contact him. However, if he's okay with you reserving the right to end it if it becomes too much for you, then work something out with him. Also, don't commit to more than you're able to give right from the get-go. You can't be his nurse and caregiver. Other supports have to be put in place for those things. If he refuses to discuss any of this with you, then you need to respect his wishes on that. I hope this helps.

Come back on to the forum and let us know how it goes for you. Take care of yourself.

Lorraine