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Reggie69
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Hi, I'm trying to find out some info regarding stage 4 and I believe it's T2 non small cell lung cancer. It's my partners ex husband and it's a difficult situation that we don't think the grown up children are coping with, could anyone give me a clue as to what time span we could be dealing with, he was diagnosed about 3 months ago and is currently having chemotherapy as the tumour is too big to operate on and its position is at the top of the lung. 

 

 

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    Hi Reggie, welcome to the forum. I can't answer your question, but I thought I would respond anyway, if only to bump your post to the front where someone else may be able to comment. You're in a difficult position here, but I can understand your concern for his adult children. Having said that, people only accept what they feel they can cope with in the moment. Sometimes it takes time, especially for close family members, to come to terms with the full impact of the pending death of a parent. If you (their mother's new husband) try to push them into something they're not ready for, you may create some tension between you. I would suggest that you let their Mom address that issue with them. As to his life expectancy given the diagnosis, I would suggest you post that question in the section, "Ask the Nurses", or his family doctor might be able to answer that, but I doubr he/she would because of confidentiality issues.

    Good luck with it and come back here and let us know how it works out for you.

    Lorraine

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    Hi Reggie

    Welcome to the forum and sorry for the reason that brings you here.  Lorraine has made a good suggestion in where to re-post your thread.  Alternatively giving the nurses a ring on the freephone number (from UK landline and most mobiles) found at bottom of this page may be a quicker option.

    I don't think any of us cope too well in these situations and when my husband was diagnosed with cancer of the lung linings, telling our adult children and then the mutual support was the hardest journey we have taken as a family thus far. It was very much a day to day situation and taking advice from the medical team involved in the his treatment and care.  Each of us dealt with it in our own way (there really is no right or wrong way as characters differ). If you have a good rapport with his children then just letting them know you are there to support them as and when needed may be a good beginning. Timescales are variable and will depend on many things, including treatment options and general health and not all patients wish to know. 

    The forum is here to listen anytime you need to offload and talk things through.  Jules54

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