Really can't believe this year,dad just died in March with lung cancer now mum has just been told she has it,I'm a my wits end,just need a bit of advice please.x
I'm so sorry that you find yourself having to cope with your mum's diagnosis so soon after loosing your dad. What a dreadful blow it is to learn that one loved one has the disease but to have to endure it again so soon... words almost fail me.
You will find lots of support here from people who are going through a similar experience (my husband was recently diagnosed with incurable lung cancer) I have found lots of support and have been able to vent my anger as well as seek advice and have found people here who I now look on as friends (all be it through virtual type) I hope you will find comfort in knowing that you are not alone.
hiya there i am sorry to here u are going though this hun and i no how it feels as my grandad has just found out that he has cancer and that he can have no treatmet and i just wanted to no how u get ready for them passing away
Netty,thank you for taking the time to send me your message,I'm just so worried for my mum,but the other thing is my mum is in Australia,and just went to the doctor there with a persistent cough,she went to see her sister who she hasn't seen for 20yrs,she was going to come over to the UK when my dad was diagnosed,my dad said don't come just make your sister come over to you! So it's even worse that I'm not with her. She goes for a scan today before she flys home next week.
Hello Lauren,I'm sorry to read your news,I don't think that you will ever be ready for anyone passing away,when dad went it was so peaceful at the end and it was a huge relief knowing that he was not in any more pain. Tell him how much you love him,and talk to him all the time,the nurses told me that hearing is the last thing that goes. I'm sending you all my wishes,if you want to ask anything then keep in touch.x
Thank you so much that means a lot to me that there is someone able to chat to me about it as my mam and Nanna are busy looking after my grandad my mam and Nanna have not yet told my little sister and cousin yet and it's going to be so hard for them when they do how would u tell to 10 year olds that there grandad is dying
You will be amazed as to how you're sister and cousin will understand,we told all of the grandchildren and they fully understood what was going on,they are from the ages of 3-10. Really think you will have enough going on and you need the support of your family.mind you they don't yet know about mum as we don't know much.!
I hope while I am on this site that I can make friends as well as chat about the cancer I hope that in a way if my grandad is suffering he just falls asleep and that he dose not wake up
how awful for your mum to learn this while she is so far away from you and what a shock for her sister. What should have been a happy event has tuned into a nightmare :( I would be worried if my mum was having to make the journey home with the news she has been given but I'm sure she will be strong. Can you perhaps alert the airline to the fact that she has had bad news so the staff can keep a special careful eye on her during her return journey? You don't need to specify the exact type of news...
I hope that when your mum gets home the NHS swings in to action with a speedy plan to get her treated.
Don't forget that everyone's disease is different so your mum's cancer may very well be treatable. I will be keeping you in my thoughts
I'm sorry you are having to deal with this dreadful disease too. Youngsters have a knack of discovering what's going on so I do hope your mum and nan share the bad news with your little sister and cousin soon. It's a difficult conversation to have but once it's out there I'm sure it will be helpful to all. Keeping secrets isn't easy.
When I was 16 my family tried to keep my grandma's terminal status from me and my siblings but I knew something was afoot so I listened in to adult conversations from the top of the stairs - then retreated to my bedroom to cry alone because I wasn't supposed to know. :(
This is such a difficult time for your family and mum and nan will be wrapped up in caring for your grandad. If you feel you have questions that you need answering but feel you can't ask your family then you can always call the Macmillan support line. 0808 808 00 00 I have called them several times and found their support invaluable. The first time I called I spent most of the time crying but that is fine. They have lots of time and patience and will allow you to go at your own pace.
