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Dottie7
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So Friday I went for my results and although I was expecting them to say the Cancer had spread, which it hadn't, I was still shocked as it's a grade 3 which really worries me.

its been a week now since I have been diagnosed with breast cancer and I actually think I'm still in denial. I've been through all the usual emotions but now I'm seem to be a little too calm about it. Does anyone else feel the same?? Maybe the panic will set in when I have my op details through. I have still not told my daughter and I'm dreading it as I know she going to be distraught, she hates in when anyone is I'll.

i have also been getting a lot I'd pains in and around my chest and around my back and shoulder blades this is also worrying me that it has spread, but then I'm in denial again and it's not happening to me.... I think I'm losing the plot!!!!

sorry posted this in the section and won't let me change!!

  • Offline in reply to Purplelily

    Hi Margaret, just wanted to wish you all the very best for your op this coming week. Will be thinking of you. Take care  Sue xx

  • Offline in reply to Dottie7

    Hi Kim, just wondering how you are and how you are getting on?

    nest wishes and hugs xx

  • Offline in reply to Purplelily

    Hi Margaret, just wondering how your doing. I hope you've had a good weekend and enjoyed the lovely weather. I will be flying out to Marbella on Wednesday but will be thinking of you and sending hugs and good vibes.

    Kim xxx

  • Offline in reply to Dottie7

    Haha we sent that at the same time!! I'm good thanks still a little tender now and then and some strange tightening around my scar. I'm still can't lay on that side and wondering about how I'm going to be on my hols.

    Kim xx

  • Offline in reply to Dottie7

    Yes I was wondering about that, cos I am keeping my fingers crossed they want to start chemo after and not before! When are you going Kim?

    great minds think alike lol xx

  • Offline in reply to Purplelily

    I go Wednesday afternoon part of me is looking forward to it and the other half is very apprehensive as I'm still very cautious and guarding my left side. I know have to look for insurance I did find one for £20 which I think was very good. Fingers crossed all goes well for you Margaret and you get to go on your holiday xxx

  • Offline in reply to Dottie7

    Well have a really lovely time Kim, will catch up when you get back. Xx

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    Hi Dottie, I was diagnosed with Invasive Lobular breast cancer on 1 July, after biospy, now I am waiting for MRI, Bone and Brain scan, and they just told me they can't get me in for another 8 days, which means I will miss their weekly meeting, which puts back me knowing if it has gone any where else. It's Axilla positive so already in Lymph Nodes. We lost Dad only a few months ago with cancer, and Mum is complete mess, and have had to keep it to myself, so I feel this waiting game will kill me first. I know how you are feeling if it helps, as I keep getting headaches, and have convinced myself its' crept into my brain! I spent nearly a year backwards and forwards to hospital doing battle for Dad, and he wanted to die at home, which we managed, but it really is a trying time, and just talking with others I am sure in similar positions will help stop those black moments. Best wishes to all us fighters!

     

     

  • Offline in reply to Ness

    Hi Ness, I'm so very sorry to hear about your circumstances, there is nothing worse than waiting when you just want to crack on and fight this evil disease that takes too many lives. The wait between diagnosis and operation/treatment certainly messes with your head one way or another, I completely blocked out I had Cancer at times then shear panic and the thought that it's spreading everywhere whilst waiting. I got through it by trying to keep busy and thinking to myself that all the worrying in the world won't change the outcome of what is already there.

    This site is full of lovely people who are happy to give advice or just listen and I'm glad I found it so I hope you too will find it helpful.

    i know how you feel about keeping it together for others,and  I felt guilty for putting them through it too.

    im glad your Dad got his wishes.

    best wishes to you and take one day at a time

    Kim x

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