Hi, I am sorry you find yourself in this situation.

The only reason I can think of is down to your mums age they think it would be better not to give her chemo, Perhaps they think chemo and operations would cause your mum to go through suffering which would not offer any real benifit.

My nan who had lung cancer was 75 and was given pallative chemo, but if I am honest if made the last few months of her life worse. But your mum is ten years younger and everyone is different. 

I hope someone on here who has been through this can offer better advice.

Best to ask the oncologist and if the answer you receive isn't convincing seek a second opinion.  My guess is that your Mum's weight loss and anaemia mean that the side effects of chemo would make things worse. Age isn't a factor normally taken into consideration but physical health usually is.            You might want to ask whether the palliative care includes chemo to reduce the secondaries affecting the lymph nodes.  Good luck. Dave

Thank you for taking the time to reply. Sorry to hear about your Nan. 

After losing my dad at 62 years old to bowel cancer, now my mum at 65 years I am devastated. 

My dad decided not to proceed with chemo anymore as compared to quality and quantity of life he wanted quality time with family. 

It feels like that decision has been taken away from mum. I am also going to ask about a drug called nivolumbab which has proved effective in trials for advanced nsclc. 

Mum has been allocated a macmillan nurse.

I hope we get to see the oncologist real soon.