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48 yr old male with Lung Cancer

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Hi my name is Ray.

my friends and family call me Butch. I'm from Wisconsin, United States.

I'm 48 yrs old married to my wife for what will be 27 yrs this May 14.  We have 2 children, boy 24, girl 19.

last Sept I had a lung collapsed and after xrays and CT Scan, it was found I had a tumor on my right lung that had colapsed. The tumor was blocking off the air to my lung. After Biopsies I was staged at 3b.Right Lung and Lymph nodes in my upper chest. I went through 30 rounds of radiation and 12 days of chemotherapy.  It was believed at that time, I was going to be declared clear. One last scan to confirm I was free, revealed a devastating  blow. It is now feared to have moved to my Left Lung, Liver and Bone in my Left hip.

I had a biopsy taken now from my left lung and will be getting those results Thursday. Two more days. My wife and Children are scared but encourage  me to keep fighting. I have to fight right ? What other choice do I have,  it's fight or die.

I'm far to young to die and my wife will not even discuss such a topic. I hate to bring it up myself, but I have to be realistic and try to make sure things are in order if it were to happen. But, it seems a subject not allowed to talk about.

well, I'm the one who is in danger of Dying at 48 and I would like to discuss it.

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    Hi Ray ,what a horrible time you and your family are facing.I can't imagine what you must all be going through and understand your fear ,I myself got prostate cancer last year out of the blue and no symptoms and was only found because I changed my doctors.However I've had it removed soon after so still in recovery and won't know much until June of this year,I'm keeping positive and sure im going to be well.Just want you to know I'm here for you and your family if ever you wish to talk and offer you support?i find that a lot of people seem to be fearful of talking to others that have cancer and don't realise what ever our out come we still living at the moment and hopefully will for a long time.Anyway feel free to chat.Wishing you and the family well.mike.

     

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    I suppose talking about it would make it all real and maybe that's why your wife won't talk about it. My son is exactly the same. If I bring my cancer up he changes the subject...it's really difficult for those who are around us as they're the ones who are left behind and will have to cope thru a difficult time. I think I'd be much the same if it were a loved one of mine wi cancer....I wish u all the best x

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