Hi sal, my name is Michelle and this is the first time Ive used this site.your post struck home with me as I was in your position almost last June,I was told I had breast cancer stage 3 and decided on a masectomy which I had the following week , I then had a total lymph removal in July , I started chemo in the September which finished this Jan,I know its a very scary time and wanted to reply to you to say although its hard you can get through it and come out the other side.Thinking of you .

Hi there michelle 

Thank u for your response it is so nice go hear from someone who has been thru this and has come out the other side. Im not sure on what operatio n yet is needed for me and will find out on tuesday about the operation chemo and if this has spread any further. I am dreading the chemo how has chemo effected u and have u been poorly off it ? Im worried as I have a autistic daughter and I am wondering physically if she is going to be able to cope x

Sarah 

Hi Sarah,I think the chemo affects people in different ways , keep to sites like this for info as there is a lot of stuff posted on line that you dont need to see , I wont lie hun the chemo was hard , but trust in your doctors and nurses at the unit they will help you through it , I lost my hair 2 weeks after 1st treatment ,but DO NOT let this send you into a panick ,its not nice but its tempory remember that , mine is now coming back and Ive started not covering my head already ,I dont know if Im aloud to say this on here but the Trevor Sorbay wig shops are great so if your planing on getting a wig do it sooner rather than later.I had good days and bad but Im amazed how well I feel now (jan 20th last one) so as I said it does get better,but find out what treatment your facing and take each one as they come , try not to over think it all and worry about every thing at once.I found relying on help from others hard to do but ended up giving all my net work of support different job titels lol one was who I would ring when down one did the hospital appointments one did the shopping ect by spreading the load it ment no one did it all , you will need support and your friends and family will rise to the challange you'll find.

I too have just this week been diagnosed with breast cancer and infected lymph nodes I am 36! It's been a week of hell and me and my family fearing the worst ! Had another biopsy on wed as sus lump in neck too I will have to wait til wed to find out plan! Op first or chemo I'm hoping neck is fine and get on with op!!! My head has been all over the place and have already gone through this once as my eldest son had lymphoma when he was 3! He is now though nearly 15 and gives me lip every day! So if he can do it we can too hey????? Much love cx

I am 7 years down the line from breast cancer. Its hard but never give up. Enjoy each day as much as possible and take care of yourself. Treatments have left me with nerve damage, joint pain and some days I just cannot be bothered with anything BUT I am still here watching my grandchildren grown up and for that I am so thankful.

Sal - yes really bad week and the waiting around is awful it's like waiting to be hung! I made myself physically sick with it fearing the worst possible situations ! Wed to wait now to find out if spread in nodes in neck too. When went through with son we just did it as you have too u have no choice it's after it affects you still now I'm affected by it but it makes u stronger people and family unit. I really hope u get some gud news on tues Hun and find out a plan if action it's all the uncertainty and putting ur life on hold that's hard to deal with xxxxx