On tuesday my dad was diagnosed with cancer in his liver, oesophagus and lymph nodes.. Unfortunately we have been told that it has been detected quite late and they can give him chemotherapy however it is likely that he wont have too long left to live. He is 54 in march and im 15, I already lost my mum to lung cancer in 2006 and i cant believe that i could lose my dad aswell.. I dont know how to cope with this news and im completely heartbroken, I keep bursting into tears and I havent been able to eat or go to school or sleep, its killing me watching him try and cope because i know he doesnt know how to cope either and i hate him to see me crying because it just makes him upset too. My brother doesnt even know yet and my sister is just as heartbroken as i am, she hasnt dealt with it well either. Things don't look bright and it makes me feel sick to think that he might not even be with us to see the new year, i dont know what to do with myself.
A big welcome to our forum. How difficult things must be for you right now especially as you already lost your mum to lung cancer in 2006. I hope you have some good support around you and that your school is understanding of the incredibly difficult situation you are in. You have come to the right place though by joining this forum as you will meet other people here who are dealing with exactly the same issues as you and it can help not to feel so alone. Perhaps it could help you to go and see your doctor and explain the situation you are facing at home- the doctor may then refer you to talk to someone who will help you cope and give you some advice on how to carry on with your school activities as it is important you still see your friends, that you eat well even if it seems so difficult for you at the moment.
There is also a great organization called Riprap that you should contact - it is specifically for young people of your age who have a parent with cancer. More information below:
Riprap Website: www.riprap.org.uk This site offers support to children between 12 and 16 who have a parent with cancer. There is information about cancer and a forum to share experiences.
And anytime you want to talk to someone, don't hesitate to come back here. It will help you just to write things down and to talk to others who are in the same boat as you or who have had a similar experience in the past but have come out the other end.
What you are going through really isn't easy. We are here for you.
