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Hello,

I am new to this, my partner of 5 years had been having mini fits and vacant episodes since the beginning of this year. He refused to go to the GP at first then went and was referred but did not attend due to fear of losing his driving liscence as his a self employed. He is 25 i am 24. We found out that i was pregnant i am due in Dec with his baby boy. This changed his mind and he decided to get it check out properly. He has a MRI scan less than a week ago and was called in for results this past friday. I thought it was epilepsy so did he. It turns out its a brain tumour located in the tempral lobe left hemi the size of a lemon and most likely to be high grade giloma the consultant told me. He is so fit and well and you would not believe the diagnosis if you saw him. We have been told the option is surgery which of course is major surgery, i have a good understanding as i am nurse myself. We had our wedding booked and planned for next May but have now decided to bring it forward before the surgery if he decides to have it. Its not really hit him yet hes still carrying on as he would normally be. The only thing keping me going is our baby boy kicking away. i want to support him the best i can,  what can i do?thanks

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    Hi there, I wanted to welcome you to the forum where people on here are very caring and supportive, although it isn't somewhere most people would want to go because it means you, or someone you love is dealing with cancer. I know when you hear the word cancer, you/we panic and with good reason; it is a dreadful disease for sure. I can tell you this though, my sister-in-law had surgery here about 6 months ago for a brain tumor and she is doing just fine. These days the medical profession knows so much more about cancer treatments that it isn't an automatic death sentence like it once was. You said you were considering moving up your wedding date to take place before his surgery. I think that would be a good idea in any case because he may need treatment after his surgery and may not be feeling very well. Besides which, since you are pregnant, it might be nice to be already married when your baby is born. I hope all goes well for both of you and your expected child. Come on here anytime just to offload and let us know how things are going for all of you.

    Good luck with the surgery.

    Take care.  Hugs to you both.

    Lorraine

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    Take heart.  My own tumor was the size of a walnut in the left frontal lobe.  Surgery two months ago went well.  The doctors did the surgery the day after I was diagnosed so it was kind of a surprise.  I understand what you mean when you said he had some vacant episodes - me too.  After the surgery, he'll probably lose some feeling on his scalp in that area due to nerves being disrupted.  It will come back though.  He'll be tired for a few weeks after the surgery, so naps are great.  When doctors start discussing radiation or chemo, gather all the information you can so you both can make a good decision on what is right for him.  I'm in that gathering process myself and this is how I found you.  For myself, God has carried me through this time and He will continue to be with me whatever the outcome.  I have no fear because I know the One who made me is with me.  The best to both of you on your upcoming marriage and the sweet new life you will be welcoming into your family. 

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