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My daughter was due to get married this April but she's had to have surgery on her bowel and lesions have been found on her liver. I'm devastated

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Hi, my daughter has had to have a large tumour and a bowel resection and a stoma bag and there are lesions on my daughters liver. I'm devastated as she had her wedding all planned and booked in April. My daughter should be going home today, but has been told they will send her an outpatients appointment and an oncologist appointment to discuss the results and plans of action ,but they did tell my daughter  that the next step will be chemotherapy. Praying every day night, my precious daughter will get through this. My daughter  is just turned 44yrs of age.

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    Oh Jass I am so sad to read this! Words actually fail me...

    How unfortunate that this is happening to her and at such a young age when she was due to get married in April. I hope she won't have to wait long to see the oncologist and get a plan of action. It's so hard at the moment when you don't have all the information or haven't actually spoken to a specialist yet to discuss the results which only exacerbates your worry. I can imagine that knowing that she will have to go through chemotherapy is making you understandably worried but it sounds like they do have a treatment plan and that she is in very good expert hands. 

    I hope that you find comfort in writing on here to us - you can come and update us any time on how she is doing. We will be rooting for her with you every step of the way through her treatment. And perhaps you can also find some comfort in the beautiful poetry you write as well as in your prayers every night, and in knowing that you have a community of friends here on Cancer Chat who will be joining you in wishing that your daughter gets through this quickly and that she can look forward and enjoy her wedding whether it still takes place in April or a bit later on. 

    We're thinking of you during this difficult time Jass and sending a mountain of positive vibes your way. Please keep us updated on how she is doing in the coming weeks and months.

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Thank you Lucie for your heartfelt reply.My daughter was allowed home late thursday.eve.My beautiful  girl is coping so much better than i ever could,im actually in awe of her , and im so proud of how my daughter is handling the fact she has had to have a stoma bag( hopefully reversable in time), when i had my bowel reserction.in.2015 i didnt have to have a stoma bag,and mine was pre canverous flat sessile polyp not actually bowel cancer,and i didnt have lessions on my liver,like my.daughter,i know i wouldnt of coped as well,ecspecially as my dsughters wedding was planned.

    My daughter talked it over with her husband to be,and they have decided not to cancell the wedding yet, only.cancel it at the last minute if my daughter is really to unwell to go.ahead with it they will lose the.

    moey anyway if they cancel it now or later,and my besutiful daughter has said " mum i wont look my best,if cancell it and get married a few monthes later as i might lose my hair,and would have to wear a wig, its not about looking my best,its about marrying the man i love,and who loves me, if i had to be pushed down the isle in a wheelchair,if im well enogh id do that. 

    My brave bestifull girl,is a.trouper.The dress i bought her.id a.sheath style,and is being altered,before this happened,my daughters lost a lot of weight,and because of the stoma,it might not fit,but ive said i will buy another dress if it.doesnt,so dont.worry about that.

    But weve all said,my daughter as well the main focus ,is on getting her through this and well again,the wedding can  wait,if it doesnt go ahead.as planned,it can go ahead later,ive also said ill.pay for it ,if it has to be cancelled,and resheduled for another time. I dont want my daughter to have any added worry,than she has at the moment.

    I had a long conversatiin with my daughter yesterday on the  phone, she has bought sone stoma belts,to keep stoma in place,and my daughter was able to wear her leather straight jeans,with a longer lengh top,and my daughter said " it didnt look to bad mum ",and she sounded much brighter. She went out with her.partner,to the local pub to see some friends,she obvously didnt drink any alchol,and only.for a couple of hours, but im.sooo proud that my girl is coping so well  so far. Ive orderd my girl,some stoma high waisted knickers in black and nude,so hopefully they will help too.

    Once my daughter gets to speak with her oncologist,and we know more,praying its not going to be bad,and be better than we are all.hoping for , and my daughter get a treatment plan,we can deal with it.

    • Thanks lucie,all prayers for my daughter will be truly appreciated . Thank you X

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