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Hpv smear positive. I'm so worried, stressed and ashamed. If anyone has been in my shoes, please reach out

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Good morning i have just found this group I have just had a positive hpv smear im 48 years old been married for 25 years and  2 children together my head is spinning.

I have never been unfaithful to my partner and and had 3 sexual long terms partners before my husband 

And my husband has had previous partners 

Im very worried stressed and ashamed when I looked up this virus I have never heard of it before 

And the information out there is so conflicting 

Im suffering with anxiety as to sit my husband down to discuss this i know its very common like a cold and I could have had this same one a few times become and now its  active and  i have never know so could my husband as men dont get tested 

And u only truly know threw smear tests 

He very old fashioned and feel like he will think ive cheated when I haven't we have just got our life's perfect and I feel he won't understand it I don't I cant eat I cant sleep im so frightened 

Please if anyone has been in my shoes please reach out 

I have had a stressful year and going threw the menopause and immunity problems a

I look forward to some advice feel like im loosing my mind 

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    Hi  

    Please dont feel ashamed you have nothing to be ashamed of. Im not a doctor but i had a hpv related cancer last year and this is what my consultant told me. The majority of the population are infected with some strain of hpv, for most it lies dormant in your body and causes no problems, sometimes it flares up and comes detectable and still doesnt cause any problems and will go dormant again and for a few it flares and causes problems. The fact that you and your husband both have previous partners chances are you both had it before you met. Im sure your gp will investigate further and keep an eye on you. Lots of people get a hpv positive smear and then it goes dormant. You say you have had immunity problems which may be why its flared up. Please try and eat. If you are worried about your husbands reaction speak to your gp and if you are happy that they understand hpv ( not all of them do ) ask if they would explain it to him. Sending hugs. Xx

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    Thank you so much for ur lovely reply I feel so lonely im trying to get my head around it 

    Trying to find out as much as i can I spoke to my gp yesterday and to be far she was useless made me feel worse 

    Im trying to get threw christmas as my husband reaction is not going to be good hes not gonna understand this i don't want to ruin Xmas for my boys but its so hard keeping it to myself hes my best friend 

    But I need to stop carrying all this its a 50 50 each  we both had partners before u met 

    Thank you so much I appreciate your reply 

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