Hi Anthony1, and welcome to the club that no-one ever wants to join.  I was first diagnosed with cancer 6 yrs ago, and it took a VERY long time for the reality to sink in.  I suspect that you are still in shock..........being given a cancer diagnosis is hugely traumatic, and  it might be a long time before the reality sinks in.  I wish you well on this nightmare cancer journey.  

Mine were the same........they were devastated, but I told them that I needed them to be strong, for my sake, and after I said that, they DID become strong.