Hello CKell

I'm sorry to hear that you were diagnsoed with breast cancer earlier this week. it's undrstandable that this news and all the information you've been given can feel a bit overwhelming at times. Take your time to come to terms with the news and don't worry about needing to understand everything. That is why you will have lots of support available from your breast care nurse and organisations such as Cancer Chat so that if you have questions or concerns you can reach out for help. 

In terms of your partners response, it may be that he feels he is being supportive in trying to almost downplay this diagnosis. Perhaps he feels he is offering some reassurance that you will get through this. It may be that he is trying to reassure himself that all will be well, or it may be that he doesn't understand how treatment might impact you over the coming weeks and months. We have a few gents here in the forum who have supported their partners through breast cancer such as ProfBaw . Hopefully some of them will post to share their experiences. 

I don't know if your partner has been to any of your clinic appointments with you but it might also help him to gain a clearer understanding if he is able to accompany you when you see the specialist next. 

Hopefully you have lots of support from family and friends as you start treatment. It can help to have loved ones around who can offer help if you do need it. 

If wou'd like to talk things through with one of our nurses at any point you're welcome to call them on 0808 800 4040, Monday to friday 9am to 5pm. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any advice, information and support they can. 

Keep in touch CKell and let us know how you get on. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator