Hi Hedgehog2026,

Welcome to Cancer Chat. I can understand that this is a tough situation in terms of knowing how to tell them. It sounds like you've been through a lot and I hope you're getting on as OK as can be.

Hopefully it won't be long before you find out the information you need. Knowing this may help guide you to know a little better what to say to your grandchildren. It may help with understanding next steps, for you and for them, and for taking things a step at a time.

You will know them best and although it will be incredibly difficult, I'm sure you'll be able to approach this conversation in the best way possible.

It's of course important that you get support too, so keep reaching out to others where possible. Friends and family around you, but also other avenues as needed, such as this forum. We're always here if you need it, even if it's just to write things down.

If ever you feel you need additional support, you can reach out to Macmillan and/or Maggie's, who have various resources, helplines, and also local Maggie's centres.

Wishing you all the best,

Ben
Cancer Chat Moderator