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Targeted therapy for stage 3 melanoma - how did people cope with the side effects?

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Hi 

my husband has been diagnosed with stage 3 melanoma and advised to have targeted therapy, which he should be starting in a couple of weeks time. He,s been very positive about things ( although I think some of this is denial ), but was thrown by the risk of all the side effects. He is in his early 60s and otherwise fit and well. He works for himself from home full time and has a lot of deadlines. We know the side effects of the treatment are different for everyone, but it would be really helpful to hear how other people have found targeted therapy and managed jobs / life / teenagers etc . He’s been told he’ll be on it for a year and that the side effects gradually reduce. He’s not one to seek support, or talk to people about it. I was diagnosed with endometrial sarcoma a few years ago and still having six monthly scans, as high risk of recurrence. I’m trying to be strong and positive for him and our son, but my anxiety for him is very high. I’d really appreciate any advice. 
Thanks 

Kate

  • Welcome to Cancer Chat, Kate.
    I’m sorry to hear about your husband’s diagnosis and everything you’re both dealing with right now. It sounds like an incredibly tough time for you all.
    It’s completely understandable that your anxiety is high, especially after everything you’ve already been through with your own diagnosis. You’ve had so much to cope with, and trying to stay strong for your husband and your son is a big emotional ask.
    Starting targeted therapy can feel very overwhelming, especially when you're presented with a list of possible side effects.
    It’s really positive that your husband is otherwise fit and well, and that may help him through the treatment. From what you've said, it sounds like he's trying to stay upbeat, even if there might be a bit of denial in the mix too. That’s not unusual at all. A lot of people prefer to focus on the practical side of things and keep going, especially if they’re not naturally inclined to open up or seek support.
    There are many people here who’ve been through similar experiences, and hopefully some will share how they managed to keep things ticking over during treatment.
    You might also find this page from our website with information on how to support someone with cancer helpful. It’s full of advice for loved ones who are trying to support someone through diagnosis and treatment, while also managing their own feelings.
    And please do remember that our nurses are just a phone call away if either of you ever feel like having a chat. They’re on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm.
    You’re already doing such a lot, Kate, and reaching out here shows how much you care. Please do keep posting if it helps at all.
    Best wishes to you both,

    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator
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    Hi Kate,

    I'm also a Stage 3 melanoma patient but I was diagnosed long before drug treatment was made available, so I have no personal experience of the side effects. However, I know several Stage 3 patients who are on targeted therapy. I have sent you a friend request. If you accept it, I can share their experience with you by private message. I hope this helps,

    Angie (Stage 3 melanoma patient since 2009)

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    Hi Angie

    Thank you for your offer of support. I think I have accepted your friend request! We’ve gone away for a few days before my husband starts his treatment.

    Hope to hear from you soon, and hope you are well

    Thanks Kate

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    Hi Kate,

    I've sent you a message. I hope you can both de-stress whilst you are away.

    Angie

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