Struggling to cope - anal cancer-telling children

I am at the start of all this. After rectal bleeding and positive fit test  I had a colonoscopy. A 3cm growth was found and small sample taken for biopsy. it came back as abnormal cells and there are concerns around something on my liver from CT scan. I am booked in to have a larger biopsy and MRI this month to identify what is going on.

I have 2 children (11 and 13) and I am trying to remain strong for them but am really finding this tough. They are unaware of any of this yet as have tried to shield them from it until we knew a bit more but increasingly feel we need to explain this to them so they aren’t left confused or feel lied too. Does anyone have any advice, previous experience or words of encouragement?

  • Hi Vicwil

    im so sorry to hear that you are in this awful time of knowing something but not exactly the whole picture and more importantly the plan to tackle this. My heart goes out to you. I have children , but much older than yours, I found it hard telling them even so. I think children sense things and will know that something is wrong. Therefore I would tell them. But they are your children and you know them best.

    Also just to say I’m 6 and a half months post treatment for anal cancer and so far I’m all clear. It is awful and distressing to hear that you have cancer, but the treatment is very successful. Just hold on to that. Once you start treatment you will feel more in control. We are all different in how we deal with all this but the Anal Cancer Forum is the place to go. Lots of support and great advice from the people who really know how it feels.

    Sending you hugs

    Happyflower

  • Thank you for your kind words Happyflower.