I have been told I have bladder cancer and that my bladder has to be removed and then I will have a bag on my stomach I can’t get my head around this I’m not sure if I can do it
Welcome to the forum Kazmack although I'm sorry to hear about your bladder cancer diagnosis and that your bladder is going to be removed.
It must be very scary knowing how much your life will change once you've had this done but I hope you can take some strength, and comfort, from knowing that our community are here for you Kazmack and I'm sure it won't be long until you receive some support and advice from others who have been through this.
Hopefully hearing about our member's experiences and finding out how life has been for them since will make this a little less daunting but if it would help to talk things through with one of our cancer nurses, they're available on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They will do all they can to support you and address any other worries or concerns you have about going ahead with this treatment.
I hope this information we have about bladder cancer surgery will prove useful as well but in the meantime we are sending you all our support Kazmack and wishing you all the best with your operation.
Thank you very much for replying, I’m not in a good place at the moment I feel like it’s a burden on my husband and my adult children.
im thinking that maybe they could move on with there life’s if they weren’t constantly thinking about me how many appointments how much medication when’s the op its just ongoing and I feel like I’m making there life’s a complete mess with worry
sorry for going on but that’s where I am at the moment my heads going round and round constantly saying what if what if I really don’t know if I will handle the bladder been taken out and then a bag ??
I'm really sorry to hear how you are feeling at the moment Kazmack but please believe me when I say that you are certainly not a burden on your family. Your husband and children love you and will want to do all they can to support you on this journey. If you haven't done so already, do try and open up to them about how you are feeling as I'm sure they wouldn't want you to keep this all bottled up inside.
Also, there is no need to apologise for anything you have said Kazmack. Coping with cancer is extremely difficult and everything you are thinking and feeling is completely justified, and natural, so do try and be kind to yourself at this time.
I know things can be very difficult when you have so much going on in your mind so I hope some of these tips for managing anxiety and managing your emotions will help to calm your thoughts ever so slightly whilst you try to process everything that is happening.
As I said in my previous post, give our cancer nurses a call tomorrow to talk things through as they are really are very easy to talk to and will understand your fears and concerns about having this done.
Do make sure you discuss how you are feeling about having the surgery with your medical team as well.
You are stronger than you know Kazmack and you will find a way through this.
