Hi Wirralmum,

I'm sorry to hear that you & your partner have received this shocking news.

The good thing is that the clinicians will be discussing the best treatment plan for your partner & he will receive great care. There are several treatment options depending on the location and amount of metastasis to the brain - all this will be discussed at the appointment. 

Research has been moving apace for melanoma and treatments are showing great success. However, don't look on Google as the statistics are out of date (due to the length of time it takes to collate & publish the new treatment stats). Ask your partner's oncologist or, meanwhile, take a look at the Melanoma Focus website - it's full of helpful information & it has a nurses's helpline that you can ring with any questions  https://melanomafocus.org/melanoma-patient-treatment-guide/

Until you know what treatment is being suggested don't be tempted to Google weird & wonderful alternative diets etc. Many don't work & some (such as certain supplements) can have a negative effect on the drug treatment. Ask the consultant or cancer nurse about anything that may help your partner's immune system to stay healthy to deal with the treatment - they will tell you what to avoid too!

I'll send you a friend request - if you wish to chat further just accept the request & we can chat by private message. Many more melanoma patients are surviving due to the new treatments so try not to lose hope.

Angie (Stage 3 melanoma patient since 2009)