Hi just been diagnosed with breast cancer and I’m a total mess crying on min then angry then planing my funeral, it’s horrendous y advice on trying to cope thankyou x
It is very scary. Once you start on a treatment plan you might well feel a bit better. Medication can also help support as can counselling. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you feel you need it. You will definitely not be the first person that medical staff have come across who needs support. Many advances have been made in cancer treatment in past years and I am sure you will benefit from that. Its amazing the inner strength and resilience one finds within oneself when the chips are down .
Thankyou so much , I’ve just got myself mentally bit better from my stroke and from ptsd from the stroke and working through covid at our university hospital , going just for a check as my breast felt fuller was absolutely devastating it all moved so quick after the mammogram they told me there and then even before biopsies were done , I haven’t stopped crying since Monday partner and family are amazing but just so scared to be on this journey x
I am sorry to hear about your diagnosis. Do you know what type of breast cancer you have, or what grade it is? Some cancers are more aggressive than others and the sooner you catch it, the better your chances. I lost my Mum to secondary breast cancer and was terrified when I was first diagnosed. I had a lumpectomy first time around, but I had a second bout within a year and had a double mastectomy. That was all 15 years ago now and I still lead a busy and fulfilling life.
Rest assured that most of us cry buckets of tears, to start with. This is not such a bad thing, as it helps to relieve the stress that you are under. It sounds as if you have had a lot to cope with, as a result of your stroke and PTSD. It does get easier once you know exactly what you are dealing with and I sincerely hope that all goes well for you. As Hopecalm, has said, there are other therapies and medication that can help with the stress, so don't be afraid to mention how you feel to your care team, if need be.
Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.
Morning Nola mine I’ve just read a letter that was posted to my gp and it’s saying locally advanced left breast lesion and pet scan was to see if it’s metastasis, I’m so scared of never seeing my family and friends because I feel this is going to take me , it’s a 5/7 lesion but I had a mammogram in January 2024 and wasn’t being recalled until 2027 ,as it was all ok so I’m really not understanding this at all … I am so glad you are ok and living it gives me a tiny bit of hope that I will be ok , I fear it’s spread to other parts of the body , I just want answers to the tests I’ve had it’s waiting that’s making matters worse … my mum had breast cancer secondary was lung and from first diagnosis to mum passing was 5 weeks and I’m so scared that will be me … thankyou so much for listening and replying I just need to try and understand as at the moment it’s all a very dark place xx
I'm so sorry to hear of your diagnosis and distress, can relate as had same situation 18months ago, and although it realy sucks, and nothing can make it better, I can assure you that in my case going through the treatment and getting more info gradually normalises it in your own mind and you are, amazingly, able to think of other things, behave normally and make plans that at the moment seem impossible. As you say, waiting is the hardest thing and impossible to put from your mind. I coped by thinking in hourly sections, planing for one hour ahead, and concentrating on that .maybe that can help?
I wish you all the best. You are stronger than you think
So far it is good news, that your care team seem to think that it is local and not metastasised - try to hold on to that for now. We know that things can change and we hope that they don't. The best way to cope with everything is to live in the moment, don't look too far ahead. Take things a day at a time, or even an hour, as Mudwalker suggests. I am so sorry to hear that you lost your Mum to this disease too. My Mum had primary cancer for 12 years, before it became secondary in bones, brain, liver and lungs. That was 28 years ago and she had a very tough time. Fortunately, diagnosis, treatment and aftercare have all advanced considerably since then and there was no comparison between what we both experienced.
My fears for my family were similar to yours, but since then I have been fortunate enough to see them both leave school, go to university, graduate, find gainful employment, fall in love, marry and provide me with 2 beautiful granddaughters. Don't write yourself off. When faced with adversaries like this, we find a hidden strength. Try to be as positive as you can about the future. You will have a battle on your hands to fight this off with surgery and/or treatment, but that only lasts for a short while.
Please keep in touch as you travel your journey and remember that we are always here for you.
