I was just told this morning that I have Stage 4 Prostate cancer, unfortunately my boss at work had to be told first as he was wondering where I was! Luckily my wife was with me during the diagnosis so i had a shoulder to cry on. I'm intending to tell my 2 sons first so will try and decide how to do that, ones at home the other is visiting a friend in the Netherlands. I want to let them know before anyone else tells them. I'm going to set up a Zoom or similar call to the one in the Netherlands.
My Parents are probably next, then my sister and brother. They live up in Scotland so might have to be a Zoom or WhatsApp call.
As for my friends, thats going to be tricky. It's actually my Birthday on Saturday. Everyone wants to come round for birthday drinks but I don't think doing the:
"What did you get for your Birthday Al?"
"Cancer..."
will go down that well :-)

I don't really want to talk about it with lots of people in the room, thats what is putting me off. I also don't want to text or email anyone. So I think I might pop round to each set of people, prewarn them of course, then tell them. 
Thats all the people I'm going to tell, the rest can find out but everyone will be told I don't really want to talk about it.  

I was just told this morning that I have Stage 4 Prostate cancer, unfortunately my boss at work had to be told first as he was wondering where I was! Luckily my wife was with me during the diagnosis so i had a shoulder to cry on. I'm intending to tell my 2 sons first so will try and decide how to do that, ones at home the other is visiting a friend in the Netherlands. I want to let them know before anyone else tells them. I'm going to set up a Zoom or similar call to the one in the Netherlands.
My Parents are probably next, then my sister and brother. They live up in Scotland so might have to be a Zoom or WhatsApp call.
As for my friends, thats going to be tricky. It's actually my Birthday on Saturday. Everyone wants to come round for birthday drinks but I don't think doing the:
"What did you get for your Birthday Al?"
"Cancer..."
will go down that well :-)

I don't really want to talk about it with lots of people in the room, thats what is putting me off. I also don't want to text or email anyone. So I think I might pop round to each set of people, prewarn them of course, then tell them. 
Thats all the people I'm going to tell, the rest can find out but everyone will be told I don't really want to talk about it.  

Thank you for your reply. I think you are right telling people individually and those most important to you first. It's all very hard. 

I've told my immediate family and best friend. That's all I can cope with for now.

I have been referred for Macmillan counselling by my GP today. Not ready for that now but worth investigating.